Thinking and verbalizing: I have to have a day job, and don’t have time to write. This makes the job the bad guy, and takes the onus off of you. It’s you turning your job into High Drama.
Being chronically late for meetings and appointments, in some way hoping to miss them entirely, so that you can blame the lateness: Oops, I missed the opportunity. Oh well, that’s the way it goes.
And you can point to all sorts of scheduling conflicts – I ran out of gas (you should have filled up the day before when you noticed the tank was low); I got an important call (you shouldn’t have answered it when you were going out. Let voice mail get it); I had to finish another project first (You could have scheduled the project for when you got home from the meeting).
Excuses are cheaper by the dozen. But you see, if it isn’t an unexpected tire blowout, or a true traffic jam; if it isn’t a sudden illness in the family or simply having written it wrong in your calendar – if it isn’t a real urgency, it’s just plain and simple High Drama.
Telling yourself that you don’t have the right contacts to be successful, and thinking: What’s the point of creating it when I don’t have anyone to show it to. This stops you before you start the creative process, as you have rationalized the “why not” instead of the “why.” It’s classic High Drama.